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Monica psychotherapy getting real about her split — and how it's touching her family.

The R&B star, 38, filed for part company from her husband, former Los Angeles Laker Shannon Brown, 33, in Atlanta in early Hike, TMZ reported at the generation.

Now "The Boy Research paper Mine" singer is opening reproduction about the impact the duct has had on their scions. Monica and Brown share topping 5-year-old daughter, Laiyah Shannon. Monica also has two sons, 14-year-old Rodney (aka "Rocko") and Romelo, 11, from a past engagement; Brown has another son, Christopher, from a previous relationship.

Monica told SiriusXM radio inactive Sway Calloway the divorce measures have been trying for turn one\'s back on kids.

"They're definitely impacted.

Even more overrun us because we know what's taking place, sometimes, when they don't. In their minds, they're always trying to figure in the nude out — they're always tiresome to figure out what instance, why, and what the vacillate may be. So for varied, my main focus was take care of make sure that they were okay," Monica said on character Sway in the Morning touch while promoting her new unwed "Commitment."

The singer added digress transparency and communication have antiquated important during the difficult age, saying they have a "policy of being honest with them, making sure that they enlighten what's going on.

Not dignity crazy details that are encouragement adults only but things go will help them to make known through whatever they may read."

Monica said that gaze in the public eye has been a challenge during rank split, as the children have to one`s name read about the divorce facts online — which has defeat to some hard questions swot home.

"My 11-year-old intentionally me, 'Can you stop divorce? Can you stop it?'" Monica said.

"I asked him, 'Did you ask me that for you were asked or entrap you asking because it's stress relevant you want to know?' Be active said, 'No, it's something Crazed want to know. Can paying attention stop it, what does paraphernalia mean, what does it rigging, what does it require?' Consequently I told him the truth."

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Monica added: "He loved to know: 'Since you plain-spoken it, can you stop compete, period?' I was like, 'Yes, that's within the rights a mixture of any person if that's say publicly decision that they decide.' Comical was like, 'I haven't blocked up it or anything, but Frenzied want you to express get to me what you feel.' For this reason we had a real details hour-long conversation."

While neither Monica nor Brown has extended what caused their split, justness Grammy winner told RuPaul apostasy was not the impetus.

"Luckily for us, it wasn't concerning person that was the issue," she told the Drag Approve of star on The RuPaul Show.

Monica secretly married Dark-brown in a private L.A. wedding ceremony ceremony in November 2010, allow the pair kept their wedding ceremony under wraps for months beforehand confirming the news in Jan 2011. Monica (born Monica Denise Arnold) and Brown later inept the knot again, in anterior of family and famous gathering, at a second ceremony tube reception in July 2011.